Why I am Not Having Any More Kids
As a mother of 2 girls I often get asked them same question: “When is the boy coming?” Do people think I have the stork on speed dial? Is not like I can order it off a menu. It’s kind of frustrating because they don’t understand that to me, 2 is enough.
A lot of people around me are having their third child.. Every birthday party I go to there’s pregnant bellies all around. Of course when I think of my girls as babies I remember how cute they were and how great would it be to start all over again. The milestones, the breastfeeding, their first steps will be in my memory forever.
But I also remember those sleepless nights, the times I had to run out of the shower with shampoo on my head because a baby was crying and the diaper changing. Would I dare to do this all over again? One side of me says yes but my pragmatic side says no.
Now that my girls are older I want to give them the world. My daughters are now old enough to be a tad more independent and that gives me time to fulfill my dream which is to write and cook for a living. Having a third baby would hinder my time with them and with myself.
For all those working mothers who have 3 kids or more, I applaud you. Don’t have idea how you do it and how you’re able to accomplish everything while raising kids. Honestly, I don’t have it in me.. My afternoons are filled with activities and homework time. Spending quality time with them is my number 1 priority for 2015. My nights belong with my hubby and the rest of the time I work. Where would a baby fit in this timeline?
Maybe I’ll change my mind in the future but for now, 2 girls is enough and Mikey the fat cat counts as the boy. What do you think? How many kids do you have?
Ashley Mullen says
This is how I feel after having three. I am done! I want to be able to put them in what ever activities they want to join, to be able to have quality alone time with them, my hubby or even by myself.
Tiffany says
Yes Ashley I know exactly what you mean!
Amber says
I have 6 kids (ages 12yrs down to 16 months). I homeschool my kids, the oldest 5 play sports, my daughter takes piano lessons, and with my husband in the military, and with church activities it can be a crazy, busy, hectic life but I love, love, love it and wouldn’t change it for anything! I do have “me” time every afternoon 5 days a week when I go to crossfit, but I am done now and don’t plan on having more children but people still ask when’s the next one? Probably because they’re so used to me being pregnant! Lol I know 6 kids isn’t for everyone, but I know it was God’s perfect plan for me and now I’m done! Lol
Tiffany says
wow Amber 6 kids! you are my hero!! and you even have the energy to crossfit!
Sherry Fram says
My daughter gets asked that all the time! She and her husband only intended on having two kids and at 20 weeks into the second pregnancy found out they were having boy/girl twins!! Their chances of having multiples again is 85%. They decided that since the babies were coming in bunches they would stop at three! lol
Tiffany says
Yikes Sherry! What a pleasant surprise for your daughter!
Shannon says
I have one. He’s 23. I would never consider having another. I’m 44 and done!
Tiffany says
I Hear you Shannon! Now he’s all grown up